His and Her Health

Hello,

yes, basically this is a request to get hold of anything you experienced that worsened your premature ejaculation problem. Interested why (or just answer):

My problem is that I have a very high sex drive, but honestly no interest in sex. It is just pure instinct hardwired into my head. I need to masturbate often or it will drive me nuts and I can't think straight. The pleasure I experience by masturbating and orgasm also worsens my problems with ADHD and depression. Additionally, it is addictive and I can't let in to it or I will masturbate all day and things just get worse. The longer I masturbate and the harder I orgasm (orgasm is the major culprid), the worse the impact on depression and concentration. It feels very pleasureable (which is obviously the main problem), but it just takes a long time for me to ejaculate (20-30 minutes). The longer I masturbate, the more I will resort to mentally arousing myself to achieve ejaculation. This actually worsens my sex drive after masturbating. Very rarely it works quicker (on random, non-reproducible impulses), in which case it still equally kills the sex drive for some period of time.
Maybe a perfectly normal problem for men, but craving women and sex by instinct started during puberty without any of my consent and has caused great distress in my life. The least thing I need is losing even more time on chasing after sex and sexual relationships. I never agreed to it to begin with and am just trying to find a solution to an overall grave disadvantage.

I found that streaming painfully hot water over my testicles when showering decreases the sex drive for some time, but not as much as masturbating. It also makes me more tired and causes slight skin damage. So it is not really a good option.

Despite just finding the contrary on the internet, 'reversing' described techniques against premature ejaculation or ejaculation before orgasm did not really help. I just need something to ejaculate faster, preferably also while experiencing less pleasure or no pleasure at all. I tried seperating orgasm from ejaculation, but it is so very tighly connected in me that it happens with best efforts at best a few seconds apart one time in 200 (which makes it near-impossible to learn by experience). I tried prostate stimulation, which doesn't result in ejaculation or orgasm (merely pre ejaculation fluid without semen) but only pleasure from the stimulation. I even built devices similar to animal electro ejaculation probes, which basically just do prostate stimulation + pain = no ejaculation with semen. I tried having orgasms by mental arousal only, in order to get more mental control over ejaculation, which worsenes my sex drive a lot and did never work (since 3 years). Those of you who have heard of polegasm/coregasm/etc (which sounded extremely promising): it didn't work, you probably need to be predisposed to it by genetics.


So that's what I tried to defy primitive human nature.

I hope you can help. (Please no lectures/advice about how my intentions are flawed)