His and Her Health

New here but have the same problem . Just started 1 year ago.
I'm 51 don't smoke, rarely drink, not fat, all my blood work is perfect.
I even have a natural test count of 749.
Have no clue what to do. This sucks

Hi @Needhelpage31,
I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of years. Today for the first time he told me he doesn't orgasm. He has never. I am shy to say I didn't even know there was a difference between ejaculating and male orgasms.
Since this afternoon, I've been googling it non stop to find out more about it. I came across your initial post when you first created this topic, and felt I just had to contact you. The problem with getting realistic and helpful feedback on this topic is that I see very few people actually know that there is a difference between ejaculation and orgasm.
I saw you and Skoiver (I think) for some reason mentioned sleep apnea and allergies. I went and read up on sleep apnea, and he has this also. Central. Very severe. He has mild allergies, gets very itchy eyes almost daily.
He is very fit and active. He has asthma, and a few years ago he had sciatica, which still flares up occassionally. He gets aroused perfectly, and he ejaculates perfectly, but he has never had an orgasm.
Have you had any kind of breakthrough since? Kind regards

Hi all,

This started happening to me too 6 months ago. After years of having much pleasure, plenty of great orgasms regularly, I progressively started feeling weaker orgasms. In the last couple of days, I had seemingly ordinary ejaculations with no pleasure at all... How odd!

I have not figured this out so far, but I have observations and experimentation to share in case it helps some of you. I am hoping that some of you have shared something in this thread that can help me too.

I am male, 51, in good physical health according to my latest annual exam. I've had a steady mostly vegetarian diet for years, do not take drugs, smoke, drink caffeine or alcohol. I exercise regularly and look a little younger than my age.

I am in a 4 year old relationship with a man (if this offends you please skip over my post). My partner and I are monogamous and I think my partner is good in bed: gentle, affectionate, attentive, energetic, skillful. Until 6 months ago, I regularly had great orgasms during sex, peaks of pleasure throughout my body followed by a euphoric and relaxed state.

Psychologically, I am fairly even keeled and so far managing well through challenges: a diy home remodel that's been dragging on for a year and half; a work crisis a year ago; an illness in the family for the last 6 months... But I do feel well loved by my family and friends and arrange for regular peer support to lift me up. My sleep and appetite are ok. My body does not hurt.

My orgasms started feeling weaker and weaker 6 months ago. I remember the first time that it happened. My partner and I were caressing each other, and I was feeling connected and loved. He'd just had an orgasm. I'd waited for him as usual, and began allowing myself to orgasm by noticing the multitude of different pleasant sensations from my body. This flurry of sensations is what usually sends me over the edge.

I had a distracting thought as I was feeling the build up: "Orgasms are so amazing, where do they come from in my body?" I tried to notice through the sea of sensations whether one part of my body was feeling stronger pleasure than the rest. And then, I ejaculated with almost no pleasure. It was like a surfer missing a wave when they are not positioned right to get on it. This experience has been on my mind ever since, sort of like a jinx. When I am near orgasm, the memory begins to distract me from surrendering to pleasure.

As possible causes, I ruled out meds and diet by eliminating any new food or supplement that I started taking in the last 6 months (chocolate, vitamin C, lysine). I noted no increased pleasure or return of my usual orgasms.

I've experimented with sex by myself to see if I can have an orgasm more easily than with my partner: It's barely better. I experience maybe 30% of the duration and intensity of orgasm that I used to have 6 months ago.

Since I experience this alone also, I don't think that a conflict with my partner is the main issue. Anyway, in the past, tension between us did not affect the quality of our sex, it only caused us to have sex less frequently. But my partner is the center of my sex life, and I do feel unhappy when we have not been communicating well outside the bedroom, so I am not ruling this out entirely as a factor. I did share the situation with my partner and, in bed, as usual, he's been attentive and eager to be helpful.

A possible significant clue for me is that I get aroused normally. And I do experience normal pleasure up to the moment of orgasm. Only then does pleasure vanish suddenly. Perhaps I get worried and freeze up a part of my body or mind? I'm curious about a few leads I found on line about relaxing the pelvic floor.

At any rate, i am sharing all this hoping that it might help others who are experiencing ejaculation without orgasm. Perhaps comparing your notes to mine might lead you to some insight?

I imagine that like me, this has caused you some distress, perhaps some nervousness or hopelessness about sex and romantic relationships. Hang in there, there's got a be way to work it out. In the mean time, I'm reminding myself frequently that I'm ok: I have other things to offer loved ones. I don't have to chase orgasms hard. I have plenty of pleasure with my partner anyway, and if I don't get to have an orgasm the way I used to, I can ask for other love treats. And I do keep hopeful.

pwm

I've now read about half the posts here and thought I'd add the following.

I does not seem possible that over-masturbation or glans skin thickening could be the source of the problem in my case. I masturbate once a week maybe, have sex with my partner about twice a week. I always lubricant. My uncircumcised glans is very sensitive. Still I'm now having some ejaculation without orgasms.

Thanks for the Gaba lead, I might try that at some point.

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