Re:Ejaculation without orgasm: Ejaculatory Anhedonia
TnT wrote in the now locked thread:
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But I do agree with the line of thought some people have been talking about...regarding it being a learned problem. Since it took so long to reach orgasm while on SSRI's, I can remember how I tried to climax faster at the time, since it wasn't worth waiting for. I just wanted to get it over with and move on. Memory isn't the greatest unfortunately, but I think it's a logical reason anyway.
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Trying to climax to get it over with - that sounds familiar. Just to release the drive and be able to go to sleep.
This has been a lifetime issue for me as well. I've only had 2 orgasm in my life, so I don't think my case was caused by masturbation techniques, but I think it is likely that technique has exacerbated the problem.
I think the buildup to orgasm normally builds up ejaculatory release as well, but the build up to ejaculation takes other inputs as well. For me, ejaculation can be hastened with greater pressure and increased muscular tension. That's probably exactly the wrong thing to do.
Every time you ejaculate without having an orgasm, your body has now learned to associate ejaculation with that lower level of orgasm buildup, the lack of orgasm, and the accompanying let down. I doubt that is likely to help with the build up for the next orgasm.
Instead, as some have suggested, I'm going to relax and reduce pressure. Limit any additional inputs to ejaculatory release, and rely only on the orgasmic buildup. I hope in this way to learn to increase the buildup, until maybe it is enough for an orgasm. Likely I won't be ejaculating for a while.
For a little data from a pro, a sex therapist in town recommended stopping masturbation altogether.