His and Her Health

Your concern is not uncommon. I am a sex therapist and probably next to not enough frequency, lack of oral sex is the biggest complaint married men have about their sex lives. It’s good that you are talking with her about this, but you probably need to be even more direct if oral sex is a deal breaker for you. She may not realize she is pushing you this far. Tell her you are afraid you’d get to a point where you’d end the marriage. If your sex life became more interesting, would that help make up for the lack of oral? If so, be clear with her about that, too. And I’m wondering how you can make sex more enticing for her? It’s not uncommon for women to lose interest in sex as their relationship ages (and men can, too, for that matter). Remember that we are mammals, and mammals are generally not naturally monogamous. That means everyone has to work harder to have a satisfying sex life over time. You may find the second half of my book on Monogamy helpful in this regard – it’s basically a self-help manual for increasing passion in a relationship.

Many girls have same problem......